Day 19 – Butch or Femme?

In the nineties there was this weird thing in the adolescent/early twenties lesbian community, certainly around Manchester and online, of how you weren’t supposed to be butch or femme because that was mimicking heterosexual sexual/relationship norms. Androgyny was the thing in the nineties and noughties, a lot of us queer girls went through non-binary phases … Read More



Day 18 – Something about the LGBTQ community you don’t understand or have a question about.

I think there are an awful lot of things about people generally that I don’t understand and that absolutely goes for our lovely Quiltbag too. However, I think one thing that I continue to be amazed by and want to know about is how did you manage to get yourself out there before it was … Read More


Day 17 – Your first experience with an LGBT organization or event (Day of Silence, Pride, etc)

I think it’s gotta be UniQ the Lancaster university Queer Society. In a lot of ways it was a complete nightmare, but then university societies are all kind of awful as well as awesome. Christ if you want to read an entry from this blog whilst I was fully wrapped up in the bizarre politics … Read More


Day 16 – A picture from your first LGBT relationship or of your first LGBT crush

How are we defining relationship here? Because I was very definitely calling things when I was in my ethical slut phase not Relationships. I think the Jellicle might be my first proper girlfriend cause M-I-L have only been together for ten years (this week). But then if we define relationship as being together rather than … Read More